I know what it's like to keep showing up while something in you has gone quiet. To look capable from the outside and feel disconnected on the inside. To carry more than people realize, and to have gotten very good at making that invisible.
I've been there. Not in the past-tense, fully-healed way. In the real way — where you're still in it, still figuring it out, still learning what it means to stop performing and start living like yourself.
That's why I do this work. Not from a finished place. From a real one.
If any of this sounds familiar
Your energy is lower than it used to be — and you can't fully explain why.
You're good at your life on paper, but something feels off underneath it.
You've been so focused on holding things together that you've lost the thread back to yourself.
You're not in crisis. You're just tired of disappearing inside a life you built to survive.
That's exactly who I work with. And it's a very specific kind of tired — one that most coaching doesn't know how to meet.
Where I ‘m coming from
For more than two decades, I worked in retail and sales leadership — developing people, leading teams, holding difficult conversations, and getting very good at keeping things moving. I was the person others counted on.
As a queer man approaching 50, I also understand the cost of survival. Shaping yourself around expectation. Reading the room before you enter it. Making yourself useful, agreeable, or strong enough to belong.
I know what it feels like to live in a body that has carried shame and desire, joy and avoidance, grief and hope — all at once. That's not ancient history. It's part of why this work matters to me.
What I believe
- Queer people deserve more than survival.
- Midlife is not the end of becoming — it may be the first real chance to choose yourself.
- Confidence isn't performed. It's rebuilt through honesty and self-respect.
- Your body is not a problem to solve before your life can begin.
- Joy returns when you stop abandoning yourself to keep everyone else comfortable.
- Your Future Self isn't waiting far away. It's the part of you asking you to stop disappearing now.
Beyond the Coaching
I write about the inner work of becoming visible again at The Unmuted Life — essays on identity, embodiment, aging, and the courage to live more fully as yourself.
Queer Body Collective and Bold Body Project grew from my belief that queer bodies deserve respect and visibility now — not after weight loss, not after confidence arrives, not after healing is complete. I'm living this in real time, not from a finished place.
A little more
I'm a certified life coach, a former multi-site retail leader, and the founder of Roberts Coaching. I love hockey, UFO documentaries, herbology, the metaphysical, and the kind of laughter that reminds you healing doesn't always have to be heavy.
"You're not broken. You're likely just tired of being the version of yourself you had to build to survive."
Additional Certifications and Coursework
Managing as a Coach – University of California Davis
Gender and Sexuality: Diversity and Inclusion in the Workplace – University of Pittsburgh
Queering Identities: LGBTQ+ Sexuality and Gender Identity – University of Colorado
These programs, combined with decades spent developing people and building inclusive cultures, form the foundation of my coaching approach. Authenticity. Embodiment. Emotional intelligence. Queer empowerment. Sustainable joy.
